Quality time are those mindful moments partners share that brings them closer together.
Quality time between partners is essential for any relationship. It helps to create fun memories, strengthens the bond between partners, and improves communication. Spending quality time with your partner can be anything from taking a walk together to enjoying a romantic dinner. Whatever it is, it should be something that both of you enjoy doing and can share together. Quality time allows you to focus on each other without any distractions or pressures from the outside world. This helps to bring you closer emotionally and create a stronger connection between the two of you.
Quality time can mean different things to each partner and sometimes it’s here they might get stuck.
Looking at how couples spend time together
can show up as Functional Time and Quality Time.
So what are the differences?
Functional Time
Functional Time is the everyday stuff they do either together or in tandem, like the shopping, washing, organizing meals, pickup dropoff of kids, coordinating finances and the list goes on. These are the activities that need to be done to keep the household and family unit functioning to a lifestyle of your choice. This can take up a lot of quantity of time.
Quality Time
Quality time is about mindfully spending time together to focus on each other. It’s sharing moments that brings couples together with their attention for each other and without distractions. In other words, not attending to anyone or anything else other than your partner. It goes beyond just sitting in a room together.
Quality time are activities that brings couples both a sense of fun, or relaxation, or adventure, whatever they both enjoy and brings them closer together. Where they can soften and tune into one another’s company. This could be things like going out on regular dates, going for a walk, weekend breakfast, go to a music concert, dinner and a movie, a weekend away and the list goes on. It just takes being creative and committing to making those quality time moments happen.
Quality time brings you and your partner
a sense of being valued as a priority.
Plan out quality time activities together
When partners don’t spend quality time together their relationship becomes more functional, they begin to loose that sense of being close. The unspoken expectations might creep in and from there possibly misunderstandings, arguments and a general lack of open communication.
Quality time with your partner provides an opportunity to create fun memories, helps to create a closer bond between partners and improves their communication. Ways to create more quality time are:
- Make an agreement on what quality time means to each of you.
- Discuss what ways you would like to spend quality time together, choose activities you both enjoy doing together.
- Write these out so it keeps you both committed.
Some activities could be:
- Both choosing a meal together and cooking it together
- Sit and talk without screens. Turn off your phones, put away laptops, don’t scroll through social media and leave the TV off.
- Go for a walk together. Get out of house and walk hand in hand around your neighbourhood, down by the water front
- Do a board game together, something fun
- Leave a puzzle on a table so you an both add to it each night, bringing you together
- Go out on regular dates the same time each week
Need help to better establish a common ground of quality time between you and your partner?
If you are seeking to deepen the way you connect with your partner, to have those meaningful conversations and be able to share a life together that involves quality time, reach out to work with Linda Kelly, Relationship Coach.
About Linda …
Linda is a Relationship Coach and Counsellor. Having worked with hundreds of couples and individuals over the years, Linda understands the complexities and challenges that couples experience today.
Linda’s blend of coaching and counselling approach allows her to be more hands-on, supportive and directive, helping people to achieve results within themselves and in their relationship.
Linda provides ‘Couples Coaching’, ‘Women’s Coaching’ and ‘Men’s Coaching’.
Linda also offers a ’12 week Couples Connection Program‘. This helps couples to rebuild their relationship, learn more about themselves and their partner, adapt new strategies towards closeness and live a life that is more aligned to their values and needs. If you want to know more or to book in your spot, book your Connection Call click here.
Based within the gorgeous Redcliffe Peninsula region, Brisbane Australia, Linda offers in-person and online Zoom sessions, both Australia-wide and Internationally.
Based within the gorgeous Redcliffe Peninsula region, Brisbane Australia, Linda offers in-person and online Zoom sessions, both Australia-wide and Internationally.
