In client sessions, I hear people talk about wanting to feel like โ๐ฆ๐ข๐จ๐ ๐ ๐๐ง๐๐ฆโ with their partner again.ย ย Theyโll say when they first met each other, they felt like theyโd met their ๐ฆ๐ผ๐๐น ๐ ๐ฎ๐๐ฒโ.ย
Fast forward years until now, their ๐๐ผ๐๐น๐ณ๐๐น connection has been replaced, with other priorities, other commitments and general life stuff.
Social media, memes and articles all about โbeing soul mates with your partnerโ all over the internet and itโs quite glamourised.
But what is not really talked a about, is that being in a โ๐ฆ๐ผ๐๐น ๐ ๐ฎ๐๐ฒโ type of relationship, takes
๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ฐ๐ถ๐ผ๐๐ ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ธ and
๐ฒ๐๐ผ๐น๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐ ๐ฎ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฝ๐น๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ด๐ฒ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ to maintain that level of connection.
So bringing this back to being relevant when Iโm working with couples who say they want to feel like each otherโs โ๐ฆ๐ผ๐๐น ๐ ๐ฎ๐๐ฒโagain, itโs about keeping it real for them.
Iโll ask them questions like: โ๐๐ง ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ธ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ท๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฑ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด๐ด๐ถ๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ญ๐ข๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ โ๐๐ฐ๐ถ๐ญ ๐๐ข๐ต๐ฆ๐ดโ, ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ธ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ญ๐ฅ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ข๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด๐ฉ๐ช๐ฑ ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ช๐ฌ๐ฆ?
โ๐๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ธ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ญ๐ฅ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฅ๐ฐ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ๐ด ๐ฅ๐ช๐ง๐ง๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต๐ญ๐บ?โ
โ๐๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ข๐ณ๐ฆ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ธ๐ช๐ญ๐ญ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ธ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ค๐ณ๐ฆ๐ข๐ต๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ต๐บ๐ฑ๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ค๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ด๐ช๐ณ๐ฆ?โ
So here, we begin to unfold and re-create what โ๐ฆ๐ข๐จ๐ ๐ ๐๐ง๐โmeans to them, to their unique definition, not to what society or what others say.