Keeping that steamy intimacy in a long-term relationship with your sweetheart can feel like an emotional rollercoaster at times. That familiarity of trust and closeness with your babe creates that security and predictability – and that’s part of the foundation of being a long-term relationship
Whereas that exhilarating steamy intimacy is from the dynamic chemistry between you both, that longing, that spontaneity that vavoom!
In a long term relationship, sometimes it can feel like a friendship instead of a steamy romance. And the key is to nurture that emotional connection with your babe beforehand. Otherwise if you go straight to steamy intimacy, your sweetie might feel like you just want them for their body and that you only value the relationship based physical intimacy.
To create that emotional connection before romantic intimacy is like foreplay, and 3 ways to go about this are:
1. Nurture your foundation.
Through doing affectionate gestures, like hugs, caressing each other in caring ways, no groping (it’s a turn off), talking to each other nicely using kind words and approachable body language, be mindful of the energy you give into the time you spend with your babe.
2. Be Present.
Be emotionally available, listen and contribute into the conversation with your babe, don’t avoid it. These strengths the secure and safe part of your long term relationship.
3. Allow of all sorts of intimacy.
Understand that intimacy is not just physical, it’s emotional, it’s mental. Explore different ways that you both like spending time together, to get to know each other, what excites your babe, what’s turns them on, what draws them closer to you?
There click here to know more on what Intimacy is and the different types of Intimacy.
Let’s face it, if you don’t feel emotionally cared for through affectionate gestures, being spoken to nicely, being cared for, feeling valued and appreciated, physical intimacy will most likely not happen.
Need help to explore how to deepen your intimacy with your partner?
If you are seeking to work through areas of resistance that keeps you and your partner disconnected from being intimate, reach out to work with Linda Kelly, Relationship Coach.
Linda provides: ‘Ways towards a Loving Relationship’ program, ‘Couples Coaching’, ‘Women’s Coaching’ and ‘Men’s Coaching’.
About Linda…
Linda is a Relationship Coach and Counsellor. Having worked with hundreds of people from diverse backgrounds and various life situations, Linda understands the complexities and challenges that people experience in relationships.
Linda’s blend of coaching and counselling approach allows her to be more hands-on, supportive and directive, helping people to achieve results within themselves and in their relationships.
Based within the gorgeous Redcliffe Peninsula region, Brisbane Australia, Linda offers in-person and online Zoom sessions, both Australia-wide and Internationally.
